What is the Clitoris? Guide to Its Anatomy and Stimulation

Some women only achieve orgasm when their partner goes down on them. Oral sex is a learning skill that depends on each individual. What worked best for your past girlfriends and partners is not sure to work with your current partner. Many women respond best to oral sex and feel it is the only way they can achieve orgasm with their partner. Whether you are arousing her or you want to bring her to orgasm, oral sex is a great technique.

To make it all easier, consider placing a pillow or two under her waist. This can make it easier for you to reach her hot spots. Once you are properly positioned, there are several things you can do to rock her world. First, warm her up by stroking her thighs, breathing naturally so she can feel your breath on her clitoris and other areas of her vulva. You can also impress her by making her orgasm bigger, which will help increase the chances. Then, once you're ready, start licking her like an ice cream cone, with long, thick strokes that cover the whole area all the way down.

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Bring the intensity up by licking her slowly with your tongue before going all in. Once you've reached a certain rhythm, try mixing things up a bit (though you should be aware of how your partner is responding to your touch. If she likes a specific rhythm or finds it particularly pleasurable, she may be disappointed if you suddenly change the rhythm).

Take special care not to shave before you are going to have oral sex. Imagine if someone rubbed sandpaper over the head of your erect penis. You would not feel good at all. You can imagine how your girlfriend would feel if you shave before oral sex.

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If you are feeling very uncomfortable or hesitant about touching her clitoris with your mouth, you should probably learn this method first. Not only does it allow for eye contact, since your face is not between her legs, but you can also communicate during this time so you know you are applying the right speed and pressure on the clitoris that your partner is enjoying. You only need to rub the sides of her clitoris with one finger at first. There is no need to put pressure directly on her clitoris yet. Instead, rub her clitoral hood or keep your finger away from it so that she does not make direct contact.

Now go beyond one finger to bigger and more or even use your whole hand now. This definitely provides more stimulation, as each finger moves over her clitoris one after the other. You can move your fingers side-to-side or you can move them in a circular motion. The key, as always, is to use the methods she enjoys the most. Keep in mind that even if you are not the kind of guy who stops by the nail salon to get his nails trimmed, keeping your nails properly clean is not only essential but will also prevent her from getting hurt.

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Most women's vaginas can get wet easily with sexual stimulation, but there is nothing wrong with making it more lush. Use water-based lubricants directly on the palm of your hand, which you can rub on her vaginal lips and inside to gently touch them. Overstimulation, just like oral stimulation, can kill her pleasure. Fingering is great for warming up and even orgasms, but be very aware of how she is responding and if she seems hypersensitive or tired, resort to other activities to give her a little break.

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Although most women are able to achieve orgasms through penetration, hand or oral stimulation alone, sometimes these are not enough to give her an orgasm. This is when sex toys, especially vibrators, come into the game. The sex toy industry has come a long way in recent years to bring safe and versatile vibrators and other products to the market. Choose the lubricant for using sex toys with great care. Because silicone-based lubricants are fine on toys made of hard materials like hard plastic, aluminum, ceramic, steel, granite, wood, marble, etc.

But silicone can react with toys made of silicone (which is the case with most expensive vibrators and vaginally inserted sex toys) and can ruin your sex toy worth thousands of rupees and injure your partner's delicate areas. The solution to this is to use water-based lubricants.When shopping for a sex toy, start with a vibrator that not only stimulates her, but reaches her clitoris. Stimulating her clitoris with a vibrator while using your penis or fingers to penetrate her vagina or a sex toy that stimulates the G-spot is a great combination.

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Finally, another way to reach the clitoris is through your most precious organ, your penis. A powerful but often neglected technique for clitoral stimulation is to use the shaft of the penis to contact the clitoris. With plenty of lubricant, this technique can be great for blowing her mind. Here are 6 sex positions for incredible clitoral stimulation -

Woman On Top
The male partner lies on his back. You come on top of him, with one leg on either side. Get down on your knees, with your feet pointing towards his feet. Sit relatively straight, so that both of your bodies are perpendicular to each other. Now thrust your hips back and forth as you penetrate him or grind on him in small circles.

This position is great because it offers multiple options for clitoral stimulation. If you try to bend over a little, your clitoris will rub against his belly. (Put some lubricant on your clitoris to make it feel even better.)

Reverse Cowgirl
This position is similar to Woman on Top, except that you face the other way. Your back is to your partner and your mouth is facing his feet. Initial penetration in reverse cowgirl can be a little tricky, so you can use lubricant to help. This is a really hot position, so a slow, sexy move works well. You can easily reach your hand down and stroke your clitoris with your hand.

Counter Top
In this position the male partner is standing, so you will need a flat, sturdy surface at his waist level. A counter top, desk or high bed usually work well. If you can't find anything sturdy enough, you can use the couch and have your partner kneel instead of standing. He penetrates you. Then you slowly lift your legs and place one ankle on each of his shoulders. Since your legs are spread, you have plenty of room to stroke your clitoris with your hand.

Sofa Doggy Style
Lean over the back of the couch with your knees resting on it. Rest your hands on the back of the couch. Your body will be straight, but slightly bent. Your partner can kneel on the cushions behind you or stand in front of the couch. He penetrates from behind you. You can also do this position on a ladder if you want. Just put something under your knees. This variation of doggy style makes it easier for you to touch your clitoris than the standard version.

Lotus Style
For this position, you sit on the bed facing your male partner and sit on his lap, he can sit you with his legs folded or spread whichever is easier for him. Place your legs on either side of his hips and wrap your arms around each other. You can't thrust in this position, so focus on rubbing after penetration. Try moving your waist up and down and see if you can rub your clitoris along his stomach or rub it yourself with your hand.

Side Wedge Saddle
The male partner lies on his back, bends his knees and rests his feet on the bed. Now the female partner comes on his waist facing his feet. But in this position, keep both your legs on either side of only one thigh of the male partner. Slowly sit on your knees and guide the penis inside you with your hand. In this position, the area above your vagina rubs up and down along his thigh, as if you are trying to climb on it. Rubbing along his thigh increases clitoral stimulation and you can apply pressure closer or further as needed with your leg.

You and your female partner can use any method with mutual consent. But if your female partner does not want to try a method for some reason or your male partner does not want it, then do not force it. Try to understand each other's wishes and concerns.

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