Intimacy Demystified: Types Of Sexual Interactions And How To Do Sex?

Sex is called intercourse or sexual relationship in Hindi, it is the process of connecting physically and mentally between two people. It is not just a union of bodies, but it also includes emotions, love, trust. When two people engage in sexual activity with each other's consent, it is called sex. The process of sex also results in children and love. During sex, many hormones are released in the body which give the experience of pleasure and satisfaction. If you are having sex for the first time or want to know about it, then it is important to understand that apart from physical contact, mental preparation and consent of both partners are most important in sex.

Before knowing how sex is done, it is important to know the different types of sex, which are as follows -

• Vaginal sex - When the penis enters the vagina, it is called vaginal sex.
• Oral sex - It is also called oral sex. In this, the mouth is used to stimulate the genitals or give pleasure.
• Anal sex - The penis or sex toy is inserted into the anus.
• Fingering - Using fingers to stimulate the clitoris or inserting fingers into the vagina is to create sexual arousal
• Masturbation - Touching your body parts to get sexual pleasure. This can be done alone or with someone else at the same time.
• Phone/Video Sex - Talking or video calling with someone online or through phone to create sexual excitement.

Sex is not just one act, but it has many levels. Mainly sex can be divided into 4 levels:

• Excitement Phase: In this level the body starts getting ready for sex. Breasts become hard, penis gets erect, lubrication starts forming in the vagina. This is the first level of mental and physical excitement.
• Plateau Phase: This is the time when excitement starts increasing even more. Breathing becomes faster, heartbeat increases and tension is felt in the organs.
• Orgasm Phase: This is the high level of sex when the man ejaculates semen and the woman experiences orgasm.
• Resolution Phase: After sex, the body slowly returns to normal levels. At this time, the partners feel connected to each other.

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Study -  2016 study titled "Is Sex Good for Your Health? A National Study on Partnered Sexuality and Cardiovascular Risk Among Older Men and Women" investigated the relationship between sexual activity and heart health in older adults. The study analyzed data from 2,204 men and women aged between 57 and 85 years, focusing on how sexual frequency and satisfaction impact cardiovascular risk. The findings revealed that older men who engaged in sexual activity once a week or more were twice as likely to develop heart disease within five years. Interestingly, this increased risk was not observed in women, suggesting that the frequency of sexual activity may affect men and women differently as they age. Furthermore, the study highlighted that women who experienced greater physical and emotional satisfaction in their sexual relationships had a lower risk of developing high blood pressure (hypertension). In contrast, for men, higher levels of sexual satisfaction were associated with an increased risk of cardiovascular issues. These findings suggest that while sexual intimacy can offer emotional and physical benefits, its impact on heart health may vary significantly between genders in older adults.

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Although sex can be done in many ways, but here we are talking about normal sex, that is, the union of penis and vagina between a man and a woman (sexual intercourse). There is no fixed way of sexual intercourse, yet you can make many preparations before doing it. The most important thing to do this is that both the partners involved in it should be excited about sex and at the same time there should be no pressure on anyone in this act. If both of you want to enjoy this act completely, then it is very important for both of you to take each other's consent. In this, it is very important to know the consent of the partner and his thoughts. Let us tell you the safest way to have sex -

Do foreplay before having sex  - Foreplay is an act that is done before sex. In this, the man and woman prepare each other's body for sex. This includes kissing, touching with love and touching the sensitive organs of the woman with the tongue. This starts the formation of natural sex lubricant in the vagina of women, while the penis of the man gets aroused. All these signs show that both the man and the woman are ready for sex. By doing foreplay, both soon reach a new peak of sexual pleasure. In this way, foreplay plays an important role during sex.

Use condom for safe sex - Men should use condoms for sex. The man should put a condom on the penis before coming in contact with the penis and vagina. This reduces the chances of sexually transmitted diseases for both. Also, using condoms is a good way to prevent unwanted pregnancy. Apart from male condoms, you can also use female condoms if you want.

Try best Position On Bed - Many types of sex positions can be adopted for sex. But it would not be right to say that a certain sex position or sex posture provides pleasure to everyone. Generally, during sex, it is seen that the woman lies down and the man has sex while lying on top of her. This position is also called the missionary position. Most couples adopt this type of position. Apart from this, there are many types of positions in which women come on top of men in sex positions. Apart from this, there are many types of positions in which both partners lie together on each other's side and front-back. To adopt the right position or sex posture, both partners will have to pay attention to their comfort, the position in which both of you feel comfortable will be right for you.

In sex posture, the feeling of lovingly touching your partner and coming close makes it easy for both of you to reach the climax. If your partner is not comfortable in this act, then do not worry, because sometimes it takes some time for the partner to understand and adapt to the situation. Once your partner is comfortable in having sex with you, then you can also consider adopting some other position. To increase the thrill of sex, you can adopt sex toys, anal sex and oral sex. After having oral sex, you should change the condom as a precaution before having normal (vaginal sex) sex, if you do not do this then you remain at risk of sexually transmitted diseases.

Peacefully Insert Penis In Vagina - After foreplay, when both the partners are ready for sex, then the man can insert his penis into the vagina after getting the consent of the woman. If you have to take the help of your hands to properly reach the mouth of the vagina, then definitely take it. Even the woman should help the man in this. The woman can take the penis in her hand and place it on the vagina. After that the man's work begins. Now the man should slowly take the penis inside the vagina. Then take it out a little. Then take it inside a little. Repeat this action a few times. When this action becomes natural, both of you will start enjoying sex. In this way, both of you will start feeling comfortable while doing sex.

However, there are some sex positions in which the woman is on top of the man and she herself inserts the penis inside the vagina. During this, whenever you or your partner want to stop in any activity, you have to stop. Many times during sex, the partner is not comfortable in a new way, in such a situation, keeping in mind their discomfort, you have to stop that activity immediately.

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Sexual relations are personal relations between two people. In this, both partners come closer to each other by understanding their respective responsibilities. Those who have sex are curious to know its correct process, while this curiosity is more seen in those who have sex for the first time. So let's know about the right way to do sex and the measures to make it special.

Understand The Mind Of The Partner  - To enjoy sex completely, you have to understand the mind of your partner. Before having sex, you have to try to know whether your partner is willing to participate in it or not. If you have sex without the desire of the partner, then you will not get pleasure in it. When the partner comes near you and tries to touch you again and again, then this signal indicates the excitement arising in his mind. But this can be called only a signal, to know his desire for sex, you must take his consent.

Make the right preparations - Sex is beneficial for your health in many ways. This eliminates calories and stress from sex. If this activity is not done with proper preparation, it can create many problems for you. Therefore, make full preparations before having sex. Keep contraceptive pills and condoms with you. Sex changes the relationship between both of you into intimacy, so do it in a safe way. Apart from this, avoid using the same condom again and again. Also, talk to your partner about this and make them feel comfortable too.

The Right Place Increases The Excitement Of Sex - Sex is important for everyone. Whether you are doing it for the first time or have done it before. Being important, it is very important to choose the right place for it. Choose a place for sex that both of you like. Apart from this, keep dim lights in the room and also play romantic songs. This makes both of you feel better during sex.

Be Sensible Instead Of Passionate - Most people get passionate while having sex. Having sex in passion can spoil your partner's mood. It is good that you are eager for sex, but you should express this feeling in the right way. During sex, you have to avoid doing anything that can disturb your partner or make her feel uncomfortable. 

Kissing Has Its Own Importance - As soon as you come close to your partner, you first kiss her and through kiss you share your feelings with your partner. Kissing with intimacy works to make women in the mood for sex. Kissing, touching and caressing your partner while coming close arouses excitement in your partner. By doing this, your partner feels emotionally connected to you. This helps both of you to have better sex. 

Foreplay Is Important - For sex, whether your partner takes off her clothes or you take off her clothes is the same thing, but when you take off your partner's clothes one by one with love, both the partners feel a different feeling. It takes more time for a woman to reach climax than a man. This happens because it takes time for a woman to get aroused. The process of preparing a woman for sex is called foreplay.

Choose The Right Time To Sex - Sometimes your partner is not ready for sex at a particular time. Therefore, choose a time when your partner has finished all his work, you can also help him in completing all the household responsibilities.

Taking Help From Your Partner  - You should not be shy of taking help from your partner while having sex. Many times men have sex in such a way without asking their female partner that the woman starts feeling pain. For this reason, men should talk to the woman about the right position and comfortable situation during sex. At the same time, women should also help men and tell them what they like doing. 

Make The Last Moments Special  - Often men sit away from women after sex or go to sleep as soon as they reach the climax. Whereas women want men to sit with them after sex, talk to them. In the last moments of sex, men should help women to dress up. The atmosphere should be made normal by laughing and joking with them. Women should also share their sex experience with men. Whereas in the end, men should throw the used condom at the right place. After this, both of you should also clean your private parts to avoid infection.

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The normal time of sex can be different for every couple. But according to medical research, the average time limit from penetration to ejaculation is considered to be between 5 to 7 minutes. But this is not a fixed rule. Some couples can be satisfied in 2 minutes, while some like to enjoy sex for 15 minutes. The most important thing is that both partners get satisfaction and they remain mentally connected to each other. Foreplay before sex can make sex even better.

Let us now know what special things need to be paid attention to during sex, so that those special moments can be enjoyed in a better way -

Do not worry while having sex - Having sex with a loving partner is a very emotional and beautiful experience of life. Sometimes being too anxious or worrying about orgasm while having sex can be bad for you. So keep your mind calm and feel the happy moment of sex with love. Click on the link given here and understand the treatment of lack of libido in detail.

Read books on sex - Let us tell you that there are many types of books available which tell you the postures and ideas of sex satisfaction without knowing any age, gender and desires. If you have not thought about buying such a book, then consider taking it according to your need, because you will get to learn a lot from these books too.

Understand the feelings of your partner  - You can make your partner feel better even without touching. Massaging with aromatic oil, lighting candles for dim light in the room and playing romantic songs in low volume also work to arouse sexual feelings in the partner. Apart from this, listening to the sound of each other's breathing when the partner is near also increases the feelings of love in both of you.

While kissing your partner, also pay attention to the feelings of the mind. If you are going to have sex and want to make it fun, then you should include strawberries or any other juicy fruit in the sex act. But keep in mind that whenever you use a condom, do not apply any oil on it, it gets spoiled.

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Give massage to your partner - Massage is considered to be a very effective and simple way of better sex. This awakens sexual feelings in the partner. This is a method of foreplay done before sex. Massage works to prepare your partner for sex slowly and increases the excitement in the partner to reach the peak state (orgasm).

A simple massage not only enhances sex, but also improves your sexual life. Massage not done for the purpose of sex gives you a chance to know about your partner's body. Apart from this, it can reduce the stress of the partner and both of you can come closer to each other. If you do not resort to massage to increase sexual arousal, then you should sit with your partner and clear the misunderstandings between the two. 

Understand each other's needs  - You have to understand your expectations some time before having sex with your partner. For this, you can also set a week's time. When you get close to your partner, in the first few days, you should only kiss them and limit yourself to holding their hands lovingly. After this, proceed further. But keep in mind that do not have sex immediately. Talk to each other about what you and your partner expect from sex.

When the week is about to end, you should have sex. While having sex, you should respect your and your partner's wishes. With this kind of process, you can awaken emotions in yourself and your partner. Also, what you think about your partner or what you feel in love, definitely tell these things to each other.

Tell each other your desires and fantasies  - Every person has his own different desires and fantasies in this subject. Whatever you think about sex, share all those thoughts with your partner. From head to toe, from hair to hips and about going out somewhere, what do you think, tell everything to your partner.

If both of you fulfill each other's fantasies, then you can provide your partner with a lot of pleasure in sex. Apart from this, having sex with some new game can also be fun for you.

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Keep yourself clean  - We are talking only about your general cleanliness. This does not mean that you start insisting on keeping your body too clean, everyone sweats a little. But pay attention that it should not be too much. Respect your partner and keep the body odor away from yourself.

The age at which people become sexually active varies across cultures, regions, and individuals. However, statistically, most individuals have their first sexual experience between the ages of 16 to 20 years. In countries with comprehensive sex education, young people tend to be better informed and make more responsible choices. Some choose to wait until they're older and emotionally mature, while others may engage earlier. The key is informed consent, emotional readiness, mutual respect, and safety. There's no "right" age—it's more about when a person feels mentally and emotionally prepared.

There is no universal "perfect" age for first sex, but experts agree it should happen when a person is mentally, emotionally, and physically ready. A good age is when both partners understand the meaning of consent, emotional responsibility, protection, and the potential consequences (emotional and physical). First-time sex should not be the result of peer pressure or curiosity alone. Ideally, the person should feel confident in their decision, be in a trusting relationship, and be aware of safe sex practices, such as condom use and STI prevention. It’s more about maturity and awareness than a specific age.

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First-time sex can feel physically and emotionally challenging for several reasons. Physically, it might cause discomfort or pain, especially if there's tension, lack of lubrication, or inadequate foreplay. For women, the hymen may stretch or tear, causing mild bleeding or soreness. Emotionally, nervousness, fear, performance anxiety, or societal guilt can add to the tension. Many individuals also worry about how they look, how they will perform, or whether their partner is satisfied. These feelings are completely normal. Proper communication, relaxation, and mutual consent can make the experience more comfortable and less stressful.

Yes, sex can have temporary and long-term effects on the body, both physically and emotionally. Immediately after sex, people may experience a release of endorphins and oxytocin, which can enhance mood and reduce stress. Over time, regular sex can improve heart health, boost immunity, and improve sleep. For women, the pelvic muscles may strengthen through sexual activity. Sex doesn't usually cause drastic physical changes unless related to pregnancy or hormonal shifts. However, a positive sexual relationship can significantly improve body image, confidence, and emotional connection with a partner.

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There is no "perfect" length of time for sex, as it varies greatly among couples. However, research indicates that penetrative sex (intercourse) typically lasts between 5 to 7 minutes on average. Some people may engage in longer sessions that include kissing, foreplay, oral sex, and cuddling, which add to the overall intimacy. What matters most is mutual satisfaction, not the clock. If both partners feel emotionally and physically fulfilled, the duration becomes secondary. Communication about preferences and comfort levels helps improve the overall sexual experience.

Yes, sex during periods is generally safe, as long as both partners are comfortable. In fact, some women experience reduced menstrual cramps and mood improvements due to the release of feel-good hormones during orgasm. However, the risk of STIs can be slightly higher during menstruation, so using protection (like condoms) is essential. Some couples may find period sex messy, but this can be managed with towels or choosing a lighter flow day. Open communication and mutual comfort are key.

In most cases, sex is completely safe during pregnancy, especially in the early and mid-stages. The baby is well-protected by the amniotic fluid and the uterus. However, it's always best to consult a doctor, especially if the pregnancy is high-risk, involves placenta previa, or if there’s vaginal bleeding or preterm labor risk. Many pregnant women find their sexual desires fluctuate during pregnancy due to hormonal changes. Partners should be gentle, communicate clearly, and use positions that are comfortable for the pregnant person.

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Yes, having sex daily is generally safe and healthy for physically and emotionally healthy couples, as long as both partners are willing and satisfied. Daily sex can improve emotional bonding, boost mood, relieve stress, and even enhance immune function. However, it should never feel like an obligation. Overdoing it without enough recovery can cause physical discomfort or irritation. The ideal frequency is one that feels mutually enjoyable and stress-free. The quality of intimacy is more important than how often it happens.

To become more sexually active, it's essential to focus on mental, physical, and emotional well-being. Start by improving your communication with your partner, as emotional closeness often increases desire. Explore what turns you on, engage in more physical affection, and reduce stress through exercise, meditation, or counseling if needed. Eating healthy, staying fit, and getting proper sleep can also boost libido. If you're facing low desire, a medical check-up can rule out hormonal or psychological causes. Being more open, confident, and communicative about your needs can naturally increase your sexual activity and satisfaction.

It is important to keep some things in mind after sex so that infection or discomfort can be avoided:

• Do not stop urinating immediately: It is important to urinate after sex so that bacteria can be flushed out.
• Do not use very cold water or take a bath immediately: The body is hot, sudden cold can cause stiffness in the muscles.
• Do not ignore cleanliness: Clean the genitals to avoid infection.
• Do not get involved in mobile or work immediately: Spend some time with each other, hug, maintain emotional connection.

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While having sex, most women take some time to get aroused. At the same time, many women feel uncomfortable and painful while having sex for the first time. Generally, this pain is not very severe, but if the woman experiences severe pain, then the male partner will have to stop while having sex. Do not be hasty during sex. It is also the responsibility of men to make women reach orgasm, so you can use a good lubricant, so that during this time the skin of both of you does not get injured due to friction. Keep in mind that there is a risk of condom getting damaged due to the use of oil-based lubricants and Vaseline.

If a woman is having sex for the first time, then she may have slight bleeding. There is no need for women to panic because bleeding is common in most women while having sex for the first time. Even if a woman does not bleed during the first time sex, it is still a normal condition. It is not necessary that all women bleed during their first sex. Women who bleed every time while having sex should consult a gynecologist to find out the exact causes of this problem and diagnose it.

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Some easy and natural measures can be adopted to increase sex time:

• Focus on foreplay: In the beginning of sex, gradually increase the excitement with loving touch, kiss, hug, etc. This creates balance and increases the time.
• Yoga and meditation: Mental peace and reducing stress delays ejaculation.
• 'Start and stop' technique: When the excitement increases too much, then stop for a while and start again.
• Change sex position: Some positions give more control to the man, such as spooning or woman on top.

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Sex is not only done for pleasure, but it is also important for physical and mental health. Calories are burned through sex and blood circulation in the body happens in a better way, due to which weight can be controlled and heart health also remains good. Apart from this, mental problems like stress and anxiety can also be avoided.